My former client, Sylvia*, sat quietly at the edge of the Bible study circle, nodding along as other women shared their thoughts and experiences. She had something to say – something she knew could help someone in the group – but the words caught in her throat. What if they dismissed her? What if they thought she was overstepping?
Sylvia used to be confident and sure of her voice. But over the years, her confidence had faded. She had learned to stay small, to keep her thoughts and opinions to herself. At home, at work, and even in church, she felt overlooked, as if her words carried little didn’t matter. As the other women spoke, Sylvia sat silently, wondering if she even had a voice worth sharing.
Do You Feel Like Your Voice Has Been Silenced?
Have you ever felt like Sylvia? Like your words fall into a void, unheard and unnoticed? If so, you’re not alone. My coaching clients have taught me that many Christian women share this experience. Society often teaches us to be quiet, agreeable, and accommodating. While these qualities can be beautiful, they should never come at the cost of your voice.
As a Christian woman, your voice matters – not only to those around you but to God, who has called you to speak truth, love, and life into the world. Psalm 139:14 reminds us that we are “fearfully and wonderfully made.” This includes every part of you – your thoughts, experiences, and yes, even your voice.
This blog post is for the purpose-driven woman who wants to reclaim her voice. Maybe it’s been buried under expectations, silenced by fear, or neglected due to your feelings of unworthiness. But here’s the truth: God has given you a unique voice, and it’s time to reclaim it.
Who Is the Woman Ready to Reclaim Her Voice?
This woman is you – or someone you know. She is:
- A faithful friend, loving mother, supportive wife, or dedicated professional.
- Someone who cares deeply about others but often puts herself last.
- A woman who dreams of speaking up, sharing her faith, and inspiring others but feels held back by fear or doubt.
She has learned to downplay her needs, opinions, and dreams, believing her voice doesn’t matter. But, deep in her heart, she knows God is calling her to rise, to speak boldly, and to step into her God-given purpose.
The Problem: A Silenced Voice
The issue isn’t her kindness or her commitment to others – it’s that she has allowed herself to become small, quiet, and hidden. Maybe she’s been told her words aren’t important or that speaking up is “unladylike.” Perhaps she’s experienced moments of dismissal, leaving her discouraged and silent. Maybe someone told her that Christian women should be silent.
But God didn’t create you to be silent. He designed your voice with purpose and power. Ephesians 4:15 urges us to “speak the truth in love.” Your words have the potential to uplift, inspire, and transform lives when guided by God’s Spirit.
How to Reclaim Your Voice as a Christian Woman
If you’re ready to reclaim your voice, here are three powerful steps to get started:
1. Remember Who Created Your Voice
Your voice is a gift from God. Just as He spoke the world into existence, your words have the power to bring light and life to others. When you feel hesitant to speak, remember that your voice is part of His plan. Pray for courage and ask God to help you rediscover your voice and its purpose.
2. Practice Speaking with Boldness and Grace
Reclaiming your voice requires action. Start small – journal your thoughts, share your opinions in safe spaces like a close friend group or Bible study, and pray for guidance. As you grow more comfortable, step out in faith and speak in larger settings. Let Ephesians 4:15 be your guide, showing you how to balance boldness with grace.
3. Trust in the Value of What You Say
I believe that God uses ordinary voices to accomplish extraordinary things. Jesus is our example and He valued and affirmed the voices of women often overlooked by society. Trust that what you say matters. Your words, when spoken with love and intention, can bring hope, healing, and encouragement to those around you.
Reclaiming Your Voice for God’s Glory
Reclaiming your voice isn’t about being loud or forceful; it’s about being intentional. When you allow God to use your words, you step into your calling as a woman of faith. As Proverbs 31:26 says, “She speaks with wisdom, and faithful instruction is on her tongue.”
My friend, your voice is powerful. It’s time to stop waiting and start speaking. Trust that God will guide you as you step into the fullness of your identity as a purpose-driven, faith-filled woman.
A Real-Life Transformation: Sylvia’s Story
Months later, Sylvia found herself leading a small group discussion at a women’s retreat. It wasn’t easy, but she put in the work with me by taking small steps to reclaim her voice and praying for courage along the way. Now, as she shared her story, she could see how her words were touching the hearts of the women around her.
That is a reminder that everything we go through is not just about us. When Sylvia got to the other side of her struggle, she had an obligation to share how God helped her through it.
Afterward, one of the women approached her, eyes brimming with tears. “Thank you, Sylvia. I needed to hear what you said.” Sylvia smiled, knowing that God was using her voice to bring comfort and encouragement. Her voice, once silenced, had found its purpose again – bold, compassionate, and alive in God’s love.
Take the Next Step
If you’re ready to reclaim your voice and step into your God-given purpose, save the date for the Not Waiting to Exhale Challenge – a 4-day faith-filled journey designed to help Christian women like you overcome fear, trust God’s timing, and take bold steps toward your dreams. It’s happening January 13-15, 2025. During the challenge, you’ll learn how to align your goals with God’s plan, speak with confidence, and embrace the calling He has placed on your life.
Your voice matters. Your dreams matter. And God is ready to help you move forward. Don’t wait—step into the fullness of who He created you to be.
*Sylvia – not her real name; name changed to protect confidentiality.
